Libidus Maxidus Blog

Good word, folks!

Hey, Old Duffer Al feels pretty sprite today, and that my friends is damned good news.

Today, I'd like to tell you about a reader who has a ball-buster for a wife (my opinion.)

You see, this gal is 10 years younger than "Joe," and loves and needs sex. So far, so good, right? Not so - if she doesn't have sex at least once per week, she flies into a fit, throws anything available, including knives, tables, books, well...almost anything at hand.

And, even when she does have all of the above available, she still physically assaults Joe.

Now, then, Joe is an old fashion old duffer, so he won't haul off and give the wife a proper berating. Nope, not Joe, he simply makes a go for the door as quickly as he can get her to let go of him.

Once he has done that, he's gone. Seems he has a house in the country where he goes when she goes into one of her sex rages.

He's been living there for nearly 2 months with little contact with the wife. I smell impending divorce...

Naturally, his wife blames him for her rages %100. She says he's withholding sex as a form of punishment. Bullshit, calls Joe.

Old Joe knows well the benefits of sex: the feelings of connection and love for your mate, but his desire for his wife is flagging. He says she has gained a lot of weight, and when he hugs her it feels like he's hugging a fullbacker, not a woman.

Joe has told her that he is beginning to have desire problems, but she just can't understand that and continues to beat hell out of him.

Well, that's Joe's vision of his wife, which tells me that he, too, is one of many men who just can't have sex with just anyone.

How many of us are with our wives say...downtown, when we happen along a stunning woman - eye candy, I've heard youngsters call it. Naturally, our wives pale in comparison, as do we with younger men. Nevertheless, that image of a woman is what we desire, and who we would really love to love.

Try to tell your wife that it's biological for a man to desire a younger, more attractive woman, and you'll get your ass kicked properly.

Still, a wife is a wife, not an old shirt to be discarded after many wearings.

Not surprisingly, I've had more than a few readers write to me stating that they've got ED and how do they deal with it. After a few questions from Old Duffer Al, I've usually found out that they do not suffer from ED at all, rather, they suffer from a lack of desire for their mates.

How do we deal with our lack of desire for our mates and how do we explain that to them without getting thrown out of the house or worse???

Well, I believe it might be ruinous to your relationship should you tell her that you don't desire her the way you used to.

On the other hand, if you don't, how in the world will she know what's going on in that head of yours? She might begin to blame herself and that's when the fun really begins.

A genuine Catch 22 if ever there were one...

Here's my advice, which will cost you nothing. Try experimenting with the various ED/desire meds. Keep in mind, however, that the PDE-5s will do nothing for your desire, so don't begin there.

My regular readers know that Old Duffer Al does a Libidus Maxidus cocktail: libidus maxidus for desire, and a PDE-5, usually Levitra, to maintain an erection.

That works for me, but you must find what works for you!

Eventually, you'll find your answer. If not, well, buy a house in the country and get ready for anything.

Al, the Oldest Duffer of them all.